Don’t be afraid to fail.
Failure is something that simply wasn’t in my vocabulary a few years ago. And what I mean is: I saw failure as the enemy and in no way would I allow myself to experience it . . . or so I thought. I pushed and hustled so hard to “overcome failure” at work, at home, with friends, with pretty much anyone I encountered.
Perfectionism was my remedy of choice. And I’ll tell ya it’s freaking exhausting, and also completely unrealistic. Viewing failure as the enemy was something I learned. It’s something most of us learn, and it takes a lot of hard work and sitting in discomfort to reverse those beliefs.
Thankfully, life has a beautiful way of helping us heal and teaching us the lessons that cultivate who we are meant to be. We simply have to find the courage to rise up when we fall.
A little over a year ago I read The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. This was my first introduction to her work and, if we ever get the chance to meet, there’s about a 98% chance I’ll mention her at some point during our conversation. Her work is that powerful to me!
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Brené Brown, she is a researcher who studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She accidentally fell into the spotlight after giving a talk called The Power of Vulnerability during the 2010 TEDxHouston. The video is now one of the top ten most viewed TED talks at over 40 million views. After all that recognition she went on to write multiple books all pertaining to her studies, five of which are #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and Dare to Lead. I’ve read all except Dare to Lead, her most recent, and each one taught me something new.
These are some of the quotes that resonated with me most.
10 Powerful Quotes by Brené Brown
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be; embrace who you are.
You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.
Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.
We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.
Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.
Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.
Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.
There is no innovation and creativity without failure.
I wanted to share this with you because her work has had such an influential impact on my life, my relationships, and the way I approach business. Taking the leap to start your own business is filled with ALL the emotions: excitement, empowerment, doubt, and fear. It can be scary and you will feel defeated at times. Know it’s part of the growth process and we’re all going through it together in some way.
Who has been an inspiration to you? What are some must-reads? Drop them below in the comments! I’d love to check them out.